To those of you who are reading this because you’re in the forever single boat wondering if you’ll ever get washed up by a wave of love–yes it’s possible. If you’re reading this because previous posts of mine show an independent, adventure seeking, never settling gal, read on. People can still stay the same but change at the same time.
Even if you’ve deemed yourself forever single, future cool aunt, or crazy cat lady, as set in your ways as you are, all it takes is one person, one moment, to change the rest of your life as you know it.
Wrong people, wrong places
High school relationships, first love, long distance–some of these relationships last, but some of them don’t. Maybe you meet the person who seems right in the moment, but is really just distracting your mind from the reality around you. Maybe you meet someone awesome but you have goals that don’t align. Back to square one, again. I always thought I was forever single but that was before I had a better understanding of what I wanted in the next 5 years of my life. I was in high school, I knew I was going to be in high school for 4 years. College, I knew I was living at home and would be there for a few years. The future didn’t seem as real as it does now. When you finally hit that point in your life– let’s call it adulthood for fun–you can finally meet the right person, in the right place, at the right time.
Master in Being Single
Being single is great, especially if you can actually learn to enjoy your own presence. Go places alone, it doesn’t have to be to another country, maybe just to see a movie no one will go see with you. You have to truly become happy with “dating yourself” before you can be with someone wholeheartedly. Get to know yourself. Leave your hometown if you can, even if it’s only for a short time. Live alone and face challenges alone. Learn to make a half way decent meal. Do all the things and do them carefree–to an extent. As rewarding as being with someone is, you won’t have these moments again so enjoy them while you can and don’t rush into a relationship if you haven’t dated yourself first.
Forever in Love
After you’ve worked through your own challenges and you’re comfortable with yourself, you may get lucky and meet your forever person. It may be someone you’ve met before and now see in a different light or someone new. It might not be as magical as the movies, or maybe it will be. I would have to say that I’ve been blessed with most wonderful man in the world and I’m not just saying that. I’ve found my forever person. You’ll know when you have found yours too, and the forever single mentality will turn to forever in love. It will have your friends, family, and even yourself thinking “Who is this new person?” but you’re still the same person, who made room for a co-pilot on this wonderful journey called life.